So, prior to getting married I had decided I was going to become a hyphen. My last name is relatively short, his even shorter, no big deal.
Then I tried writing it a couple of times. Crap, what a pain in the a**. Then I listed all the places to notify - DMV, Social Security, bank, credit cards, etc. Crap, waaaaaaaaay too much work.
So I made some calls to those whom I consider knowledgeable on the topic.
Here's the result. Socially, I'll use the married surname. Professionally and and legal documents I'm going to maintain the status quo.
I wonder when, if ever, he notices.